Take Care of Whom????
Couple in tender moment
I heard recently on one of Duke of Earle's Hot Talks that the women (of Jamaica) when they migrate to America, do not want to take care of their husbands anymore. Then I heard Duke mentioned that some women do not know how to take care of a man. Now correct me if I am wrong, but the last time I checked, the only people needing to be taken care of are babies, the handicap, and sometimes the elderly.
I don't see where just being a male alone fit into any of these categories. I did not know men needed help wiping their behinds. Too often I hear women say, "I have to go home and cook my husband's dinner," when both husband and wife have spent 8-10 hours at the work place. Why the heck can't he cook dinner if he happens to reach home first - or better yet - take turns. If you are both hustling to bring home the bacon then who cooks ( or cleans for that matter) should be a toss up.
We have to remember that that mentally comes from the olden days when the husband replaced the father and took care of the woman financial and so the woman was expected to wait on the man hand and foot. Today both husband and wife are hustling and sometimes the wife is working harder than the husband. Times have changed my friends, in case you did not get the memo.
I can understand wanting to do something nice for your loved one and cooking is one of the most romantic gifts. But more often than not, a woman coming home from work is far from a romantic mood. Being obligated to Cook or Clean or whatever, is far from romantic. By the way, a recent study shows that men are helping out a lot more around the house, and this is paying off big time in the bed room. Trust me men, foreplay starts with taking out the garbage, picking up after yourselves, helping with the laundry, running bath water and, yes, cooking and cleaning. Just trust me on this one!!!! You guys should try it sometime.
I guess I am fortunate enough not to have had these demands placed on me, or maybe I have just been with more modern thinking men. My partners have always cooked for me and indeed it is a wonderful thing. The gesture a beautiful. They have not thought twice about doing household chores either. What can I say, I choose the smart ones.
People in a relationship should take care of each other in a sweet, loving way - not an obligatory way.
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